Advice to your daughter

IMG_3596Even though we live in a world where there is so much information out there, it seems our children are missing out on some important information about themselves.

I sat down and started to think of when I was a teenager and how I perceived myself and the world around me. I don’t recall getting a lot of advice but sometimes I wish I was given more information on growing up. Don’t get me me wrong, I think some lessons in life need to be learnt the hard way, but not all. So I have devised a short list of 5 pieces of advice you can give your teenage daughter to help her as she moves into adulthood.

  1. If you are searching for that ONE special person in this world who can make you complete, look in the mirror. YOU are that one special person, you will always be that one special person who can make your life what you want it to be. So stop searching.
  2. Real friends are the ones who get the best out of you. It is wonderful having lots of friends, so choose those who want you to shine and want you to succeed no matter what.
  3. Your mum actually does know a few things about growing up too. I’m not saying she is always right (yes Ashlea I am not always right), but asking advice from your mum is not a bad thing. She can add another dimension to the situation.
  4. Having a boyfriend or partner does not create self worth. You are not defined by the person you are with, you are defined by the person you are. Being alone is not a bad thing and does not mean you are not loved, it simply means you have not found someone who deserves your love yet.
  5. Get an education. This is so important girls to educate yourselves in many different areas and strive to be the best person you can be.

This is only the tip of many pieces of advice you can give your daughter.  I hope some of it helps.

cheers natalie xxxx

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Comments

  1. If you are searching for that ONE special person in this world who can make you complete, look in the mirror. YOU are that one special person, you will always be that one special person who can make your life what you want it to be. So stop searching. 🙂

  2. Pete With Feet says:

    Advice to your Daughter.
    Well said Nat. Advice to your son could follow, suitably modified, but as well structured.
    Daughters will glean advice from their Dads but often what is sought and given is simply help, assistance and a shoulder to lean on, more than likely from a different direction and perspective. This is good and entirely healthy. I am not at all implying that you play Mum’s against Dad’s to obtain the best (acceptable) outcome. Far from it as parents only have the best interests of their children at heart, no matter what the circumstances, it’s just that a male (Dad) understanding and experience often differs from a female (Mum) point of view and this is well documented and understood. It’s called “balance”
    Those who have lived life (Grandparents) deserve to be listened to as they wear with honour the scars of experience, ie. Been there-done that.
    Important Grandparent rules to lock away and be guided by include: Always tell the truth, respect others, be compassionate and very importantly remember that;
    ” there for the grace of God go I”. eg: your skin could very easily have been jet black, your hair in ringlets and you could have been born into a remote nomadic tribe in the Sahara Desert? They simply have just as much right to be on this planet as we do. Circumstances (tough) beyond their control dictated otherwise – as It did with you/us. It’s just the way the cards fell.

    A thought provoking topic Nat; congratulations.

    Pete with Feet

    • Hi Pete with Fete,
      Thanks for that amazing response. I agree that fathers can also offer their daughters great advice and their opinions are very important in a young girls life. Grandparents have ‘been there, done that’, and many times life experiences are invaluable. I will be writing more on the advice side of things and will definitely use some of the things you mentioned.

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