Advice to your son

Photo on 22-11-2014 at 1.38 pm #3Photo on 22-11-2014 at 1.38 pm #2Photo on 22-11-2014 at 1.37 pmThis blog is dedicated to a mother/daughter experience. However, after writing a couple of ‘Advice to your daughter’ posts, I have been asked to involve the beautiful boys in giving out advice.

I have two boys, aged 11 years and almost 8 years. Both of my boys are extremely different in all aspects of life – from size, academics and personality. What I would do for one of my boys, I would never consider doing for the other. For example, the 11-year-old remembers everything (not only in his life but in everyone else’s) so I would never spoon feed him information as he would look at me like I was strange. My nearly 8-year-old has blocked ears (I think anyway) as he hears nothing EVER. I need to tell him at least 4-5 times to do something and even then he forgets. Parenting is not an easy job.

So the advice is general, some relates to me, some advice I have received from beautiful friends of boys and other advice is based on research.

  1. Don’t let girls play you like a fool. Be kind to girls but if the kindness is not reciprocated, walk away.
  2. Use your strong mind and big hearty to make good decisions. By focusing on the positive with boys, and saying it in an encouraging way, aids in their decision making.
  3. Don’t be too hard on yourself but try to stop and think before you make decisions.
  4. Treat girls the way you would like a boy to treat you sister. If you would be upset by the way a boy is talking about a girl or treating her, do not repeat the behaviour.
  5. Boys need men in their life. Boys need good mates in their life.
  6. The world isn’t always fair and the best things do not always happen but whatever happens, make the best out of each situation.
  7. You don’t have to be good at sport.
  8. Change what you can to achieve YOUR goals but don’t dwell on the past – this cannot be changed.
  9. MOST IMPORTANT ADVICE … and this was from every woman I spoke to… Always call your Mum, always answer her text messages and always remember family is unconditional.

This is just the beginning of some advice we can give to our boys (and then men) in our lives.

cheers natalie 

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Comments

  1. Your words reminds me of my own mother. She has always put priority to us than anything else in her life and still does to this day. It’s good to see there are still awesome parents out there!

    • Thanks for your comments, especially the good parent part.. Lol. There is no manual to parenting and the only way to learn by living it. Getting advice from those who have been there is wonderful, from those who are currently surviving it is inspiring and from those who are experts is challenging.

  2. Hahah that’s gold!! And totally agree, every child needs to parented differently as they are very different and has different needs. It just may take many frustrated years before you as a mother understands their child and their needs!!! It’s not easy 😳

  3. I REALLY love this! I have one daughter and two sons…they’re a bit young for this advice but it’s nice to know it’s out there! Thanks, and thanks for visiting and liking HALOM!

    • I’m glad you like it. I love writing and researching all the blogs we write but the ones where we give advice like this are special. Put this away in the vault and look back as your little family grows. Btw love the pic of you and Dave.

  4. kirstyrussell75 says:

    This is great advice. I have a 10 and a half year old boy and these are words that I will share with him. He is just entering that state between childhood and the teenage years and it’s so important to keep instilling these messages so he can continue to grow up to be considerate and kind. Thanks for linking Natalie – looking forward to checking out the rest of your blog too x

    • Thanks Kirsty. The age of your son is when all the fun begins ( or ends whatever way you want to look at it). Talking to boys is a positive way, while still allowing them to be boys, helps turn them into beautiful young men.

  5. This is lovely advice!

  6. Pete With Feet says:

    Boys/Young Men/Sons
    How lucky to have both Daughters and Sons. A blessing for some no question.
    Firstly, the make up of the male gender is quite different, for the most part, from a female.
    Of course there is often a cross-over in areas of sensitivity, for example. There are also some girls referred to as “tomboys”?.
    My point is that one can only really generalise when referring to the “how to bring up kids manual”. Parents, from a standing start with their first born, still learn new things long after their little darlings have flown the coop!!
    Boys do need a male (Dads) in their lives, no question. Frankly they (boys) often come into, assess, weigh up and become involved, in a first time situation, from a totally different direction and perspective, particularly from that of their sibling sisters. So they need to be nurtured differently. May I also dare suggest that how they react is sometime completely foreign to their empathetic considerate Mums. That’s fine, as parenting is a joint venture which requires a balanced view whenever possible.
    Boys often have a physical, manly, slightly more aggressive, run through the banner approach.
    The rough and tumble they love, throwing their weight around persona, and later in life developing a lifetime mateship over a drink (or three) is often a hugely satisfying bonding characteristic not followed exactly, or appreciated in the same way, by girls.
    Finally, believe me, Mums don’t have to be good at sport or have the slightest knowledge of what is meant by a “front foot no-ball” or a “62 degree wedge”. Turning up, when you have a headache or have had a bad week, on a weekend to support your kids at 8:00am on a cold wet and windy day, at a location 25ks from home however is remembered “for life”. More importantly – they ultimately mimic you and pass this unquestioned parenting love and support on to their kids. Is their any greater reward?
    Pete with Feet.

    • What wonderful advice Pete. I completely agree that for most mothers, the boys play and behaviour can be very foreign, especially if you have been bought up in a female environment. Understanding and accepting that boys and girls ARE in fact different and often do require different needs is essential. As so learning sports, the way to learn is by watching.

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