Yet Another Anti-Bullying Campaign

It’s true, mum and I have been floating on cloud nine after this happened last night:

A few days after we posted our blog Not Just Another Anti-Bullying Campaign, the boys we wrote it about (Bars and Melody) tweeted a link to the blog. Well we flipped obviously! It’s not everyday you get noticed by someone famous. After we got over the initial shock of being tweeted to over 200,000 people, we got more excited when we considered why we would be tweeted about.

Bars and Melody promote anti-bullying, and they’re famous for it. After their performance on Britain’s Got Talent, they went viral. Since then, they have moved on to travelling the globe spreading the word about how bullying affects so many people daily. The fact that these boys who have made it their life mission to support the anti-bullying campaign think that our blog about the topic was worth reading, is amazing.

These boys are really making a positive difference in the world and it feels really good to know that they think our post might help. Mum and I are so excited to know we have so many new readers who are willing to support Bars and Melody (and us of course) in the movement to stop bullying on a global scale.

As a teenager myself, I am surrounded by people who try and tell us their own bullying experiences and telling us to speak up if we are being bullied. As hard as it is to listen to these stories, there is always the thought that they are older than us and my generation doesn’t do that. However, when you hear a boy who is your age say that he was beat up for being different is a real reality check.

It’s really hard to imagine moving on from something like that but Leondre didn’t just move on, he went on to become a huge sensation that works towards stopping things like what happened to him. Well, I can say it’s working. Listening to all the girls talking after they spoke to us at my school, it was obvious that what they had said really stayed with them and probably will for the rest of their lives.

Bars and Melody are following the leads of other famous people who are taking a stand against bullying too. Some of these stars who feel just as strongly about the issue of bullying are Victoria Justice (star of Victorious), Demi Lovato (star who has faced bullying in the public eye as well as in private) and Josh Hutcherson (Peeta Mellark from the Hunger Games trilogy). As well as these individuals my favourite TV cast, Pretty Little Liars, has come out against bullying.

These particular people stand out to me as people that are doing similar work to Bars and Melody. This is because all of the solo people I spoke about have done TV and radio interviews to promote anti-bullying and have joined organisations devoted to the end of bullying. The Pretty Little Liars cast is different. The entire TV series is devoted to bullying and the impacts it can have on the lives of everyone involved. Its a great TV show to show the effects (whilst extreme) of cyber bullying.

After hearing Bars and Melody talk about bullying, sing their self written songs (did I mention they are 14 and 16 and have written their own song. Can you say talent?) and then have them tweet about my blog post, I can safely say that these two boys are doing a great job to stop bullying. If you haven’t already, I would suggest checking out their audition for Britain’s Got Talent, it really is an inspiring video.

Ciao, Ash


Teenage Fear

imagesBeing scared isn’t much fun. Whether it’s scared of what the future holds or going to see the next horror movie, being scared is no fun whatsoever. Of course, sometimes fear is healthy. In instances such as wanting to jump off a cliff, it is okay to be scared of dying. A good dose of fear every now and again (in safe situations of course, I am not talking about throwing yourself off a cliff to experience the fear of falling) is perfectly normal.

Why, you may ask, am I talking about being scared? My new favourite TV show of course, why else would any teenage girl have any idea. American Horror Story delves into the more extreme versions of fear. Some of these are murderous ghosts, asylum dwellers, witches and murderous clowns. The show plays on human emotions and makes you feel extremely scared the entire time. The best part of the show though, is turning my laptop off and knowing I am completely safe. It isn’t always like that when it comes to overcoming fear.

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This word is one that I think is underrated. Perception is an individual concept yet it affects everything around us. The way I perceive something is MY CHOICE, and this is something I am in total control over.

I can analyse a situation in a positive or a negative way.

I can perceive a situation from the viewpoint of LOVE or FEAR.

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Scared of the Dentist …. 5 tips to ease the fear of children

Sitting in the waiting room at the dentist, my palms are sweating and I’m trying to convince myself everything with fine. I’m thinking about a girlfriend who has to have surgery in a few days after having breast cancer. ‘Natalie the dentist is nothing’. I cannot control the deep seated fear and external sweating (nice image). My fear of the dentist began as a young girl and that fear has never left me. Basically, if you needed a filling it was going to hurt and the instruments they used generated noises which seemed more suited to a construction site than a dentist.

While in the dentist chair today, mouth completely numb from 3 local anaesthetics, I began to concentrate on this blog. Yes I was scared. Yes I was nervous. But when I looked back at my kids going to the dentist, they were holding my hand and supporting me. Children feed off those close to them and often imitate the same emotions and fears. As the drill with the extremely pointy end moved within my mouth, water trickling down the back of my numb throat trying to choke me and the dental nurse ever so gently suctioning up the water I couldn’t swallow, I was determined never to show my children this fear. Dentistry has come along way over the past 30 years and the pain I experienced today was barely even band-aid material. Uncomfortable was how I mainly felt, with a swollen face, dribbling out of the corner of my mouth completely unaware (another nice image).

So to stop transferring the fear to children, here are a few little ideas:

  • Dentists no longer hurt, they use a little modern drug called a local anaesthetic.
  • Take baby steps – make the appointment and have a simple check up. NO dental work. If you need to return for a procedure, do it in small stages so you are not in the chair for longer than half an hour.
  • Concentrate on something else while in the chair – writing an article, creating a master chef style meal, going bungy jumping (come on – if your scared at the dentist you would never bungy jump).
  • Choose a dentist you are comfortable with and always get a second opinion if you are not happy with the results.
  • Reward yourself after behaving so bravely at the dentist.

I am a good Mum and I realise going to the dentist ONCE a year isn’t really that bad after all. My kids look up to me – ‘Monkey See Monkey Do’.  In saying that, if I didn’t have children at my age, I probably wouldn’t go… I’m no hero.

Cheers natalie


I’ve been to the dentist on several occasions and only once have I ever been scared. This fear however can be easily explained as it was built up though my Dads teasing and telling me false stories. If it weren’t for this I would have been absolutely fine like I have been every other time.

A few months ago I went to the dentist to get some fillings, something that required a couple of needles and I faced it cool, calm and collected. Mum looked more worried than I felt. It took a while to convince her I was going to be alright and that I didn’t need her in the room with me. She could simply wait in the waiting room. I went through the small procedure easily and didn’t stress one bit, I can only hope Mum didn’t.

The idea of going to the dentist doesn’t give me even an ounce of fear because I didn’t see any scary dentists and bulky utensils. Despite what Mum may think, I can only give one piece of advice to parents who want to ease their child’s experience with the dentist.

Do NOT put your experiences on your child, and especially your fear. Let them decide on their own whether or not the dentist is something they do or don’t like, otherwise they will think its natural to fear the dentist when in truth there is nothing to worry about.

Ciao Bella Ashlea

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