What kind of friend are you?


There are many types of friends out there, but for the sake of this blog, I am only going to list 5 types. Choose which friend you think you are and send this blog to your friends and see what they think.

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Yet Another Anti-Bullying Campaign

It’s true, mum and I have been floating on cloud nine after this happened last night:

A few days after we posted our blog Not Just Another Anti-Bullying Campaign, the boys we wrote it about (Bars and Melody) tweeted a link to the blog. Well we flipped obviously! It’s not everyday you get noticed by someone famous. After we got over the initial shock of being tweeted to over 200,000 people, we got more excited when we considered why we would be tweeted about.

Bars and Melody promote anti-bullying, and they’re famous for it. After their performance on Britain’s Got Talent, they went viral. Since then, they have moved on to travelling the globe spreading the word about how bullying affects so many people daily. The fact that these boys who have made it their life mission to support the anti-bullying campaign think that our blog about the topic was worth reading, is amazing.

These boys are really making a positive difference in the world and it feels really good to know that they think our post might help. Mum and I are so excited to know we have so many new readers who are willing to support Bars and Melody (and us of course) in the movement to stop bullying on a global scale.

As a teenager myself, I am surrounded by people who try and tell us their own bullying experiences and telling us to speak up if we are being bullied. As hard as it is to listen to these stories, there is always the thought that they are older than us and my generation doesn’t do that. However, when you hear a boy who is your age say that he was beat up for being different is a real reality check.

It’s really hard to imagine moving on from something like that but Leondre didn’t just move on, he went on to become a huge sensation that works towards stopping things like what happened to him. Well, I can say it’s working. Listening to all the girls talking after they spoke to us at my school, it was obvious that what they had said really stayed with them and probably will for the rest of their lives.

Bars and Melody are following the leads of other famous people who are taking a stand against bullying too. Some of these stars who feel just as strongly about the issue of bullying are Victoria Justice (star of Victorious), Demi Lovato (star who has faced bullying in the public eye as well as in private) and Josh Hutcherson (Peeta Mellark from the Hunger Games trilogy). As well as these individuals my favourite TV cast, Pretty Little Liars, has come out against bullying.

These particular people stand out to me as people that are doing similar work to Bars and Melody. This is because all of the solo people I spoke about have done TV and radio interviews to promote anti-bullying and have joined organisations devoted to the end of bullying. The Pretty Little Liars cast is different. The entire TV series is devoted to bullying and the impacts it can have on the lives of everyone involved. Its a great TV show to show the effects (whilst extreme) of cyber bullying.

After hearing Bars and Melody talk about bullying, sing their self written songs (did I mention they are 14 and 16 and have written their own song. Can you say talent?) and then have them tweet about my blog post, I can safely say that these two boys are doing a great job to stop bullying. If you haven’t already, I would suggest checking out their audition for Britain’s Got Talent, it really is an inspiring video.

Ciao, Ash

My Best Friend



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Advice to your daughter – (No.2)

4-up on 5-10-2014 at 5.40 pmAs a mother of 2 teenage daughters ( and 2 younger boys but I will get to them later), I have noticed that parenting is getting harder and harder as they age. When I had 4 children 6 and under, I thought it couldn’t get any harder. And that was the case at the time – it was physically exhausting. However, as my children have grown, so have their needs, mainly emotional needs and I need to be there for them more now than ever.

I am living through this stage but I have also done extensive research about helping other parents survive the teenage years. I have devised another 5 tips on keeping that parallel connection with your daughter.

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Is three a crowd in friendship groups?

No one likes to feel left out, especially when hanging out with your friends. Even as I get older and supposedly wiser the emotions some friends generate within me brings me straight back to my childhood. The feeling of being left out can turn the most confident individual into an insecure and emotional mess. Why did they not include me? Is it something that I said? Is it something about my personality that they don’t like? Most of these types of questions only result in negative answers.

When 3 friends are together there will always be times when one person will feel they are being left out. The emotion is contagious and can spread throughout the group with everyone wishing they were not the person being left out. Recently I had coffee with 2 friends and for the most part, the conversation was shared evenly about our weekends, children and the week ahead. When a story was shared about catching up over the weekend, a catch up I was not privy to, I admit I felt hurt that I was not included. My mind raced about why they had not included me – I’m fun, I’m good for a laugh, I was around all they needed to do was call. Even 20 years later, feeling left out still hurts.

I over compensate with my friendship groups by involving everyone, never wanting anyone to feel left out. When you have many friends, this is not always practical. I understand I cannot always be involved in everyone’s lives all the time – no one can. It has taken many years to truly understand this. Often there is a logical reason as to why I was not included in a catch up, none of which are ever intentional. Surrounding myself with friends that love me for me is the best way to over come feeling left out. It’s those friends that continually make me feel like I did when I was in high school, are the friends that I no longer need in my life. Letting go is easier said than done sometimes.

Cheers Natalie


When people say threes a crowd, I don’t always agree. In fact, more times than not I would’ve said that being in a group of three is fun and there is never a lull in conversation. However, the more I think about it, the more awkward a group of three sounds. Personal experience has shown me that sometimes, being in a group of three is not always as good as it seems. When doing a project at school, there is always that one person who feels left out and unimportant in the group. If you went to the movies with two other people, there are always times when someone feels like they are being ignored. Someone would always have their back to someone else making the feeling of exclusion rise. I know how it feels to be that third wheeler and i can tell you it doesn’t feel nice.

To me, the worst part is not having something to add when they are talking, especially if they both recently did something together that I didn’t, giving them a perfect topic to talk about but one I can’t relate to. The feeling I get when people sit there and discuss what they did or are going to do without me, is like a punch in the stomach and makes me feel like I don’t belong. Why didn’t they invite me? Did I do something wrong? Maybe they don’t like me as I much as i thought… Situations like these always make me question myself and my behaviour, even if i know i did nothing wrong.

For a teenage girl, self doubt doesn’t always just extend to questioning what I said or did, quickly it becomes a question of what I wear or my appearance. I know that being left out, whether on purpose or completely accidental, hurts and can often bring out the worst of me. Although most times groups of threes aren’t always the best option for people, I will admit that sometimes they work out fine and allow people to people to have much more fun than they would if it was just a duo.

Ciao Bella, Ashlea


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