Are you a parent who yells at children’s sporting events?

My parents are the kind of parents who yell at mine and my siblings sporting events. They aren’t abusive yellers though, which is a good thing obviously, but they do have a tendency to go overboard (mum especially). I don’t have an issue with it, I’ve managed to tune out majority of it when I’m playing so I don’t actually hear much. However I know that there are people out there who absolutely hate it when their parents yell at their sports.

Whether it is because of embarrassment or because some parents aren’t quite so supportive in their yelling, some people just shouldn’t yell out at sporting games. I know that when I play my sports, there are times when there are parents (not mine) who verbally abuse players from the opposition or even their own kid. I think that parents, or anyone for that matter, who shouts out abusive comments to any child playing any sport should be immediately banned.

It can get quite distracting when someone from the sideline is constantly yelling out mean comments to anyone on the court. Some kids don’t like it when their parents call out anything at all, even comments like ‘good job’ or ‘keep going!’ It doesn’t bother me when I play but for some reason, I am more affected by it when I am watching one of my siblings play.

I find it frustrating as a spectator when all I can here is someone (usually my mum) yelling louder than the coach. It isn’t really an issue when it’s constructive calls. However when I have to play while listening to someone shout out things that shouldn’t be said to teenagers let alone little kid, it quite literally drives me insane.

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So I am a yeller! Thanks Ash for putting me out there. I must admit that when it comes to watching my children play basketball (all four play), I can’t seem to stay quiet. Basketball is a sport I grew up playing and I love watching it. I know this sport very well and feel confident with advising my kids to help them improve their game. Due to my vocal voice, I have put my hand up to coach both my girls next season. Maybe I need to use my voice in a constructive way.

When I yell, it is never negative comments, only positive instructions, and more often than not just to my child. We were recently at a netball game watching Ashlea play when a mother from the opposition team was being very inappropriate in her comments. She was shouting out to her daughter that she was doing nothing wrong and that our girl was just unfit and sloppy in her approach. The umpire had pulled the opposition girl up for unruly play ( which doesn’t happen often in our level), yet the mother couldn’t control herself. I was embarrassed for the girl and also the coach as he had to warn a parent on his own team to calm down.

On the weekend, my eldest son played basketball, a sport he is so passionate about that he knows the stats of every player in the NBA league. I hate seeing him upset with himself when he is not playing the quality of game he aspires to. This week was one of those games. His coach was screaming at him and this only made him play worse. After the game I spoke with my son and we discussed how he felt with the shouting from the sidelines. He knew he wasn’t playing well but made it worse when all he could hear was negative screaming from the sideline.

The next sporting game I watch with my children, I am going to sit there, quiet as a mouse, and watch only. I will see if this makes a difference with the way they play as I never want to be the one who makes them question their game. Sometimes when you think you are helping as a parent, you are actually making it worse.

Do you shout at your kids sports?

Cheers Natalie xxx

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Being a Gracious Loser…

I know that everyone loves winning and the people who love losing are people who don’t actually exist. Competition is a part of everyday life and there is always a winner and a loser. In real life no one comes a draw and there are always people who end up on top. As much as we’d like to think otherwise, we can’t always be the winner and sometimes, we have to know when to be a gracious loser.

¬†Being a gracious loser doesn’t just mean shaking hands at the end of a sports match or congratulating someone on something they achieved but you didn’t, it’s about holding it together yourself. The firsts step of being someone who is not considered a ‘sore loser’ is first off, taking a step back from the situation and contemplate whether or not it is worth getting emotional and teary eyed over.

¬†Sometimes things in the moment seem worse than they would the next day. Loosing your grand final might seem like the end of the world after the game end but when you wake up the next morning, it usually doesn’t feel so bad anymore. When you miss out on a promotion at work, it may seem as if your career is over but if you take a step back you would see that you¬†maybe¬†overreacting.

¬†As well as taking a step back, I find it helpful to step into the shoes of the winners. If you had won the game or received the promotion and someone was moping around you and being nasty, it would most likely make you feel guilty. Is it really fair of you to bring someone down after they achieved their goals just because you aren’t happy? Thoughts like these can really make you appreciate the fact that you can learn just as much from losing as you can from winning, if not more.

cheers Ashlea xxx

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Once again, well said Ashlea. Losing in any aspect in life is a difficult concept. No one wants to be the loser but unfortunately someone has to come first and someone has to come last. Being able to handle the loss in a mature and rewarding way while learning from the experience can only make you a better person.

It is easy to blame the umpire or the referee or the opposition for cheating. But that will not change the fact that when the siren goes and the game is over, one team wins and one team loses.

  • Being a gracious loser is¬†acknowledging that ON THE DAY, the other team performed¬†better.
  • Being a gracious loser is acknowledging that ON THE DAY maybe your performance wasn’t as good as the other team and therefore they won.
  • Being a gracious loser is¬†acknowledging that ON THE DAY you gave it your best but unfortunately your best just wasn’t good enough.

Nerves can play a major role when is comes to grand finals or final performances. Some people handle nerves better than others. There is nothing wrong with being nervous and each time you experience nerves, you learn how to handle it better and better until the nerves no longer control you. I think it is important for children to understand the concepts of winning and losing and its essential to experience it. Having a scoreboard, a ladder and an overall winner gives children something to strive for. If they do not reach their goal in one season, try again and work harder and eventually your goals become reachable.

cheers natalie

Are team sports important for children?

Being part of a team is definitely important, especially growing up. I’ve always played basketball and just recently started netball. I think that being a part of team boosts your confidence and socialising skills. It also lets you have fun playing your sport with other people.

I love playing in teams because it means all the pressure isn’t just on me like sports such as swimming or skateboarding. In sports such as basketball, netball, soccer, cricket and so many more, you have the opportunity to play with other people who enjoy the same sport as you.

When I play in a team, I always feel as though I have to perform better. Without a team you could play at any level you what’d because no one relied on you to be good. With a team you almost get pushed by your team mates into doing the best you can. Having encouragement makes things so much easier in sport.

Playing a team sport helps you become more social and confident a round others. It helps you to interact with people who like the same things as you. When you play, you are forced to talk to your team mates so you are bound to become friends with people who you may not have been friends with before.

Basically, team sports are really fun. They have everything to make great memories as a child or to keep fit as an adult. Sports are a huge part of Australian culture, as is competition. Competition is a great way for kids to learn how to win and loose. Team sports are definitely a very important thing to be a part of.

Ashlea..

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All my children play team sports as I think it is essential to learn to be part of a group effort, the highs and lows included but feeling integrated within a small group.

Once a commitment is made to join a team, children need to learn to stay committed. That includes participating in training as well as game day festivities. There is no pulling out of a team sport mid season just because you have tired of the sport. The commitment has been made to be part of a team and as a parent, it’s my role to ensure my children understand this commitment and stick to it.

Teams rely on each to succeed. Teaching children that a team involves other people relying on them and visa versa (yes shock horror – it is not always about you) can be a lesson that helps them succeed when they get older.

Being part of a team also involves the coaching staff. In many children’s sports, the coaches are the parents of team members, devoting their time to the team. Out of respect for the coach, turning up on time to training sessions and game day, is an important part of being in a team.

cheers natalie

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